Disclaimers: I’m NOT a clinically trained professional. I will ALWAYS implore people in crisis to seek immediate clinically trained professional medical and mental health help and/or immediate help from law enforcement by calling 911.
The problem with above disclaimer, as exhibited in a blog from a few days ago and with this particular blog, which is to discuss another horrific murder/suicide that occurred on Tuesday, both involve members of the military who were in crisis.
I understand fully, that no one has asked me or expects a disabled blogger to solve complex crimes like murder/suicide or massacres.
But the problem IS, NO ONE is talking about it, from a professional point of view, in hopes to prevent these tragedies from occurring over and over again.
The horrific tragedy in California took place by someone who was actively seeking treatment but got kicked out of a program and there wasn’t any safety net, which I’m definitely not blaming anyone.
The horrific domestic murder/suicide that took place in the state of Washington, on Tuesday,was committed by a man, where it was talked about a potential of marital discord, but the man after killing his family, had the horrible misguided enough sense of presence of mind to call 911, to report that he committed the murders and would be commiting suicide and THANK the first responders he spoke to, but NOT enough presence of mind to stop himself from killing his entire family and himself, in the first place.
When I went researching for initiatives, I found a lot of research, by both federal, state and educational entities on murder/suicide.
What I DID NOT find was INITIATIVES for PREVENTION of murder/suicides.
I hope those who are formally clinically trained in dealing with traumatic events of this nature, will speak up.
I hope that any news entity that reports these crimes, will question the lack of support systems for people in crisis who are capable of doing so much good in their lives, but then end innocent others lives and their own, in the WORST WAY POSSIBLE.
I hope that as many initiatives that need to take place to help prevent these tragedies, will FINALLY be created.
I learned when I volunteered in a battered woman’s shelter in my early 20’s, we were taught that the most deadly time for a battered victim was when they left their spouse.
25+ years later, that’s all changed.
Someone with NO record of domestic violence are now taking out their entire families for many complex reasons with NO warning signs and regardless of gender.
Or as ultimate revenge, letting the person they formerly loved but NOW hate, live, but killing the people that person loves the most, with NO warning signs.
Or there ARE warning signs but they are ignored, because no one wants to think of someone they love of being able to do such evil to them or another loved one of theirs.
We live in a society that NOW is showing CLEARLY, that a lot of people need help on how to constructively process hurt, rejection and rage, that doesn’t lead to innocent lives being lost.
And we need to start this when kids are young and continue to reinforce positive and constructive coping mechanisms when dealing with hurt, rejection and rage throughout our entire lives.
And we have to STOP sensationalizing these tragedies.
As they aren’t human interest stories or true crime, they ARE human tragedies.
I guess this my opinion on it.
One that I wish I could stop having to share over and over again.
I really wish though, if anyone has a better idea or a more qualified opinion, they would chime in with it, both on blog and like EVERYWHERE, because it’s really needed now, as these murder/suicides are tragically and senselessly, becoming a horrific daily event.
Note: I’m in NO WAY demonizing the service and sacrifices that our military makes for us, which I like anyone else, am eternally grateful for.
I’m only trying to constructively point out again, the need for more services needed for both for military and civilians, to reduce the amount of horrific murder/suicides occurring on a daily basis.
Because again, it needs to be reiterated, that sometimes EVIL, can’t be prevented. But too many people who lived most of their lives trying to do good are ending others and their own lives in the worst ways possible and if there is any way to prevent this, we have to start somewhere and we have to start NOW.
So please, I encourage constructive dialogue, in hopes for preventing these tragedies.
Also note: I am though probably going to be taking a break from this topic for awhile, I’ve tried to do it justice, I just really can only hope that others way more qualified, finally chime in.
Important Update: At the time I both wrote and published this blog, the murder/suicide at UAB-Highlands Hospital had not started trending in any of the reputable news organizations I follow nationally and/or locally.
I can only reiterate what I said above and what I’ve said in the last week, month and last several years about murder/suicide, not touch on 1/100th of them, if that.
I’m just hoping that these deaths do not continue to be in vain, that out of respect for victims and their families and friends, that comprehensive initiatives are created to try and combat this epidemic and horrific tragedies.
So this heartbroken disabled activist is sending thoughts and prayers for victims, their families and friends, as well as ideas for action and hopes others who possess the capacity to create concrete action, will do so.