To want to be or NOT to want to be famous, that can be the questions… BUT what is the right answers, in the digital era???
Important Disclaimers: Because the topic at hand, could be a life or death situation for someone, as evidenced in You Tube link and bullying in the link above that, it bears repeating, I am NOT a clinically trained medical or mental health provider, nor am I trained in matters of law or public safety.
If you or someone you know is in danger of hurting themselves, hurting others or being targeted that could cause harm, please seek immediate appropriate professional assistance.
While I have written other blogs, as a non fame seeking non monetized blogger/activist, on the dangers of social media, I’ve never blogged about these topics, specifically.
That is both for those of us who wish to remain anonymous and/or private in our online/offline lives.
And those who seek to become famous (either with or without wanting to become or being rich), and having a cautionary tale of what they didn’t want to become famous for.
I’ll first address the right to be anonymous in our offline private lives, as that’s something I’ve wanted to address forever in this blog, and was reminded of why it’s NEVER been so NEEDED, like it is now.
The top link highlights a local man, who was accused on social media of doing something creepy and being a “creeper” when he pulled over to call a family member for directions.
It’s hard for me to judge the person who made him famous, she honestly thought she was protecting children from a possible pedophile by posting a picture of his car, which identified him as long standing kind and upright citizen, to both the police and his local community.
Even if there was no malice, damage has been done, can’t be taken back.
Truthfully, that man handled it better than I think I could be capable of handling that kind of situation, as it would emotionally break me (and unfortunately I would be really depressed, unfortunately it needs to be said, as someone with non violent mental health disabilities, I wouldn’t go all Rambo on anyone) and I’d be devastated.
And here’s hoping I’ll and others like me, whether someone is social or an introvert, is never made either famous or infamous against their will, when doing nothing wrong, just going about living their life, won’t ever find out like that man did, of what it’s like to be made infamous, for doing nothing wrong.
That is something that’s not talked about in our society, in this era.
People have to stop assuming that if they want something badly like fame, others want it badly, that EVERYONE must want it.
That’s just simply NOT true.
I’m in NO way saying wanting to be famous is something to be ashamed of.
But somehow, this has all been lost in the digital era of what the dire consequences could possibly be even innocently, making someone well known against their wishes and their will.
We know it causes fatal depression, sometimes homicide, when making someone famous or infamous, when there’s no reason to, with malicious intent.
I don’t look look good at all these days, in a photo.
And I honestly couldn’t care less about how I look, as it applies to me, whether in public and or in private.
I probably care more so, that some, quite a few, will judge me on it.
But judging or assuming I might behave a certain way, in a very unbecoming way, because I at this point, don’t care what others think of me, I do care that others might judge harshly for those of us, where what we look like, is troublesome to others and it hurts them, bothers me.
It bothers and haunts me, A LOT.
It took a long time for me to accept, I’m not ever going to be considered attractive.
I will NEVER accept, that it’s okay for others to judge me and others like me and try to socially, if not financially benefit by putting myself or others like me, with putting images without consent, when going on with our lives, for the social crime of being unattractive to another, when it really doesn’t adversely effect anyone, for their own personal or professional gain.
This era is TOXIC because of that pervasive damaging mindset.
As far as addressing those who want to become famous, have something go viral, while the video link above, addresses that, I’ll just add a few things and it will be clearer why both the right to be anonymous and the dangerous of wanting or becoming famous, in the same blog, needed to be said.
As wanting to be famous, is someone’s right to do.
The problem is and it’s always been an issue, prior to the digital era, is that one doesn’t usually just take themselves down that path to fame and/or the consequences of not handling fame and it ruins their life, if not ends up ending their life and possibly innocent others who didn’t ask to become famous.
Again, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to be famous, just like there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and feel and look one’s best.
But, we all need a reminder, what’s good for one, isn’t good for everyone.
What we put or don’t put in our psyches is equally important as what we put or don’t put in our bodies.
And that the consequences can be grave, if one doesn’t consider what, why and who they shoot/post with or on a digital device, could be equally life ruining, if not life taking, as if they shot at someone with an actual gun.
If there isn’t a legal remedy to making a person who wishes to be private, infamous, for doing nothing wrong, there can and should be a moral and ethical remedy and responsibility felt by people vowing to not to do any harm to themselves or any other when using their digital devices.
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