Whether or not #Uvalde was preventable is still unknown but #buffalo #topsshooting WAS, what the #NRA can do to help prevent #massshootings…

I neither advocate or denounce the NRA and it’s members

Important Disclaimers: I am not a clinically trained medical or mental health professional and as always if you or someone you know is in danger of hurting yourself or others, please contact 911.


I have a tendency to piss off people on both sides of the political spectrum.

I’m pro-choice, pro death penalty and while I’m all for common sense gun law reform, I still defend people’s right to legally, responsibly and safely own and use guns.

This is what I’m perplexed about though and I didn’t have the words when the mass shooting happened in Buffalo a few weeks ago like I did with Uvalde, yesterday.

I’m more of a centralist than a Democrat or Republican being affiliated with both parties at some time in my life, a Republican before I had children in 1992 and a Democrat up until a few years ago.

There are people I know and love and trust who are card carrying members of the NRA and I trust them with my life and anyone I love, their lives as well.

So I’m already fully aware that there are a lot of good upstanding legal abiding citizens who support the NRA.

In the news with how devastating people are from the mass shooting at Robb Elementary there’s all these pointing of fingers so to speak and multiple, diverse and polarized opinions on what needs to happen.

While we may never know what the shooters motive was at Uvalde, if I was a betting person, I’d bet the evil cowardly white supremacist Tops shooter killing all those innocent people shopping would be a card carrying member of the NRA than than the evil cowardly 18 year old who killed all those children yesterday.

As I’ve said before and it’s not because I’m a gun owner myself, at the age of 52 1/2 , I’ve never even touched a gun.

I don’t understand though why the NRA is against backround checks and common sense gun laws.

I’m the first to admit backround checks probably will only reduce gun violence by very little as if a convicted felon or someone who wants to own a gun and has an extensive mental health history can’t get one legally, anyone who wants to kill someone badly with a gun, if they can’t buy one legally they aren’t beyond getting them illegally either on the streets or stealing them.

Or killing or attempting to kill many people by weaponizing a vehicle, poisons and bombs to name a few.

Protecting people and the 2nd amendment is NOT an either/or situation, you can believe and do both.

It would be so easy for the NRA just to condemn guns being used to kill innocent people in all these massacres, which happen everywhere now schools, stores, hospitals and places of worship to name of few.

That the NRA can say this weekend at one of their seminars at their 2022 convention in Houston that all their card carrying members regardless of race or religion, matter. They can say they do not condone but actually condemn hate groups and the hateful actions of them, especially when guns are used to kill people of color or such as killing people based upon religion.

But the NRA should be calling out any hate crime against any population of people, whether it be race, religion, political affiliation, sexual/gender preference/identification when any crime is committed with a gun for illegal reasons. Period.

The are other crimes obviously such as mass shootings at schools and domestic violence which result in gun violence of murder/suicides that any comments the NRA could make wouldn’t be as effective as it would be in preventing hate crimes such as the massacre in Buffalo a few weeks ago.

It’s not just hateful bigotry it’s evil cowardice hateful bigotry though that’s usually behind store, workplace and places of worship mass shootings.

How badass is someone if they are a white supremacist to kill black people in a grocery store or church. Or Jewish people in a synagogue. Or Muslim people in a Mosque. Or in a hospital or gay nightclub.

It’s not badass at all. It’s evil cowardice at it’s worst and again the NRA could easily by denouncing hate crimes reduce them because as this wise activist has repeatedly said, constant rejection can lead to rage and the need for revenge.

As well as realize it could very well create a vicious cycle as for some, there is so many times one can be hated on for their race and their religion and then they themselves put all innocent people even their own NRA members at unnecessary risk.

Do the right thing NRA, like this weekend. Denounce the mass shootings and shootings that result in massacres rooted in hate, political extremism on both sides, racism, anti-semitism and xenophobia, actually form of massacres and murders due to hate, rage or bigotry. at least and I don’t think I need to say that at least thoughts and prayers for Uvalde need to be brought up, I’d be really surprised if it wasn’t.

Like seriously, NRA. What are you waiting for? What could possibly problematic in taking an anti-hate and anti-mass shooting stance?

You and your members are way more capable of just existing to protect the 2nd amendment which isn’t going anywhere!!!

And see this blog, as wordy as it was, shows, we can use words without even weaponizing them, let alone using an actual weapon to express a difference in opinion or a criticism without the intent to hate or hurt anyone, in my case I’m trying to help save people’s lives, which could include your NRA members and their loved ones, given the rate that deadly violent crime is going up.

And I’m the first one to say, guns aren’t only to blame and people need to stop doing that.

Important Notes: I will report all death threats to the authorities it’s not the first time blogs of this nature that have caused me to receive them.

I also don’t believe while motives vary, that a mass shooting at a school that those kind of shooters would be less convinced to commit an atrocity or be an NRA member compared to workplace shootings for example and if I’m wrong, please feel free to correct me.

I also make absolutely NO apologies for defending the NRA’s right to exist, as well as the 2nd amendment but at the same time the NRA can also do their part when promoting guns of also promoting gun safety and it being despicable for a a gun to be used on another human being or even animal due to hate and rage.

Also note, I’m a violent crime prevention activist, usually when I’ve said anything resembling defending the NRA, I get hate comments from people who belong to PETA for example. It’s not a conflict of interest to defend responsible legal hunting, just like it’s not a conflict and it would make me a worse activist if I wasn’t horrified when for example Steve Scalise was shot, among others a few years ago, which I was horrified.

However defending legal hunting with a gun isn’t promoting animal cruelty which I also abhor, just like most responsible gun owners are also loving responsible pet owners.

People like that don’t realize they are part of the problem, you can’t just care about the life and safety of people or pets that you only like and share the same philosophies with and screw everyone and everything else.

Toxic belief systems like that is one of the reasons why we are in this hate, harm and killing cycle to begin with.

“We don’t have to agree on anything to be kind to one another”

What #BillMaher last night’s #RealTime got right, but was so terribly wrong initially and it needs to be addressed #election2020

Important Disclaimers: I am not a clinically trained medical or mental health professional nor do I have any training in public safety.

My normal disclaimers are, if you or someone you know is in danger of hurting oneself or others, please contact emergency services, immediately.

As it applies to this blog and as someone who’s taken issue with Bill Maher’s fat bigotry in other blogs, while I don’t think anything I say will make it on his radar, I should disclose in addition to not being a clinically trained professional, if somehow this blog would reach him somehow, I’m sure he’d have a field day of pointing out my flaws as a poor, fat, ugly and old disabled writer.

Which I give ZERO fucks about what anyone thinks of me, truthfully about anyone who fat or appearance shames anyone or myself, as it says more about a bully than who they choose to pick on.

But, given the one thing we have in common as far a concerns of violence increasing after the election, a hope for a country that can learn how to agree to disagree with no more violence and the hypocrisy shown on both sides as it applies to law breaking, maybe he or others of like mind, can give me a pass on my syntax and my not being aesthetically pleasing , as again just trying to save lives, prevent unnecessary totally preventable human physical and emotional trauma and tremendous burdens on essential resources on here when I can, so I can’t really be bothered if you don’t like what I look like.

Even though I guess I could try harder to limit paragraphs to no more than 100 sentences.

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I needed a break early this morning as I’ve been working on a blog for weeks and while when still trying work on it earlier this morning, decided to go on You Tube, for a break, where when seeing seeing suggested videos, topics that I have been working on, ended up being addressed on Bill Maher’s show late last night.

Should one choose to view the the clip, I’m going to work backwards in addressing what I agree with him and the one thing he said that was so horribly not funny on a topic that for years couldn’t be funny given how violent society has become.

Lastly, (again I’m working backwards as topics were addressed) should we as a country try to find a way to agree to disagree, peacefully?

Of course, absolutely.

I keep saying that as an activist blogger, why isn’t anyone listening to me????

Oh, maybe due to that pesky fact I’m a recluse who looks like the love child of Bride of Chucky and Jabba the Hutt and nor do I have a t.v. show on HBO.

Keeping going…. Is there a ton of hypocrisy in life and death matters, as well as crime as it applies to people who lean politically on the left?

As well on the right?

Yep, Bill be right again.

Which, sadly if there’s any kind of shared personal traits that are inherently bad and hypocritical , that is of both liberals and conservatives being so quick to call out criminal behavior of the other party and not owning when one party is so quick to embrace criminal behavior of their own peers, which Bill called out perfectly.


However, his opening lines to this segment were HORRIBLE.

New Rule: Bill Maher is probably not a good person to do any kind of activism when it comes to brining people together given how dismissive he is of certain populations of people.


Trying to make a joke of opposites sides uniting by using hating one’s family when there’s been such an increase in domestic murder and suicides which are always tragic but in a lot of instances in the last week alone, there has been several domestic murder/suicides, as well as the many years I’ve been blogging about domestic murder/suicides they’ve involved tragically, the murdering of children by a parent or guardian.

I don’t believe in cancel culture, when it comes to shock comedians and I don’t think Bill Maher as hurtful as he can be, should be censored, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be criticized.

Such as when he’s been in the past with his fat bigotry to quote James Corden, I just think “instead of worrying about what others put in their mouth, he should be more careful on what comes out of his mouth” is all I’m trying to say.

It’s just too bad that he had to somehow fuck up a plea for peace at the expense that had to involve joking about something that leads to domestic violence which he wasn’t per se advocating domestic violence, but that’s usually the outcome in many cases when families hate on each other and that has just increased and intensified in 2020 between the election and the pandemic.

Perhaps, he’d be better served as well as his audiences, if he picked up a paper once in awhile , instead of just rolling them.

Important Note: Again, as horrified as I was about his initial comments, I still was able to admit where he and I do agree and that is about our country needing to learn how to respectfully disagree without death threats, assaults, actual death and damage to property.

So, any kind of death comments directed to me will be reported and any hateful comments about Bill Maher will be NOT tolerated on here, either .

Why wasn’t this local “domestic terrorist” already in prison???

https://kstp.com/news/75-year-old-victim-in-minneapolis-assault-dies-police-say-november-12-2019-/5551007/

Important Disclaimers: While this blog is being written to serve some kind of activism goal such as violent crime prevention and violent crime awareness, it’s also to be a safe place to discuss the violent misactions of  the young man who committed above crime was out on the streets to do so, after I looked at his past criminal history in Minnesota.

That’s it. I don’t take issue with the depraved violent criminal’s race, age or mental health issues.

And am hoping NO ONE does, either.

IF violent crime talk and profanity is a triggering to anyone, please don’t read. Thanks.

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I was horrified when I first saw this story last week.

I could relate to the victim, in the respect I don’t like rude noisy people in public and private sectors, in housing and in transportation.

On our local buses, it absolutely says to be quiet and respectful, the buses especially that go to that certain transit center, that I’ve been on, there have been also safety incidents with passengers assaulting bus drivers.

This is what I know to be true…

That the City of Minneapolis, State of Minnesota, non profits, law enforcement, Minnesota Judicial branches, Metro Transit, are doing everything they can do to keep us safe.

The problem is they could be doing more, but I’ll admit, I’m not sure what more even looks like.

My last 2 blogs were about a lot of people wanting to look their best and why I can’t care that I don’t and my last blog was about a famous person doing something unconscionable to his daughter and thinking he was so right in doing that, that he went public on what he did.

In the case of this blog, that man who was assaulted last week, just passed away.

His last memories in a long life which I can only pray was good to him, up until his final week, was being assaulted by a gang, not knowing whether or not he regained consciousness, to be robbed and then spend the last of his days in the level 1 hospital, 2 blocks away from where I live, before his death.

Things I’m not allowed to express publicly, as a poor unattractive older disabled  white female who lives in a form of affordable housing in area concentrated of both wealth and poverty, I’m just going to finally say something.

It fucking sucks to be at the mercy of others, all the time.

If I’m not worried about getting mocked for being unattractive the little I get out in public and possibly being put on someone’s smartphone for it to go on social media (it’s happened before, not paranoid) and people who should know better not knowing it shouldn’t be a social crime to be unattractive.

But what’s worse, in the digital/drug era, is people who have potential or are violent, they either don’t know or they don’t care about the consequences of their behavior on others, both in public and in their private lives.

So I’ll say without consequences that others might have, if they can relate.

And I honestly don’t mean any harm to people, such as the family and friends of the victim, should they choose to  forgive.

But seriously, FUCK YOU, Leroy Davis-Miles, I hope you fucking rot in prison where you belong, and your friends who encouraged you, even though I haven’t seen their criminal legal record in Minnesota to know if they are a violent predator like you are, I hope they rot in there, too.

My thoughts and prayers are with the victim, his family and friends.

Update: Not a racist and not enjoying being called one. Look up his record in the last 5 years, yourself, as you already have his name and here’s the website link below. You’re welcome…

http://pa.courts.state.mn.us/default.aspx

What requires the most urgency at this point in time: Falsely reported hate crimes or INITIATIVES to try to prevent planned hate massacres???

Important Disclaimers: I am NOT a clinically trained medical or mental health professional. Nor am I trained in matters of public safety or law enforcement.
IF you or someone you know is in danger of hurting themselves or others, please contact emergency services, immediately.

The above quote I posted, unfortunately is outdated.

We’re past the point of being at risk of “will collapse” and we’ve arrived that it is collapsing, others disregard or hatred of humans that’s leading to senseless murders and massacres that are almost happening on a daily basis.

In no way am I trying to dismiss the importance of a need to have a deterrence for falsely reported hate crimes, as in the case of what happened with Jussie Smollet who’s facing potential felony charges for allegedly doing that.

I’m also not discounting of the harm and hurt he did to more conservative people.

And not only that, going forward, just like in the past with attacks on both white people and black people in the LGBTQ community, there’s also the chance of increasing disbelief of victims, when crimes of this nature due ACTUALLY occur.

The thing though is, I do believe that making it a felony will deter in the future, attempts to gain public attention/sympathy, waste public resources for those who could be capable of making a false claim of a hate crime, going forward.

What cannot be legislated away, is something else that was reported in the news yesterday, that a Coast Guard employee, Lt. Christopher Hasson was apprehended and in that investigation, the little that’s been released he planned on murdering as many innocent civilians, democratic politicians and cable news anchors that he had on a list.

Six days ago, 5 people were murdered by an ex-coworker who was enraged at losing his job in Aurora, Illinois.

Which was the 39th mass shooting in 2019.

And you have to say Aurora, Illinois, not to confuse the massacre in Aurora, Colorado in 2012 where 12 people were murdered, 70 injured which was the 3rd largest gun massacre in U.S. modern history.

When the news broke last night of the extent that Christopher Hasson planned on killing as many people as he could, I happened to see it on CNN and something that now I can’t shake  and propelling me to write this.

One of the contributors said, “It was good thing that this person made a mistake”.

If I thought that he was a potential lone isolated incident, I’d still be scared for how many senseless tragedies that are happening but not to the extent where it’s been quoted he wanted to kill “almost everybody”, but what’s scaring me, is what if he IS NOT an isolated situation?

What if now, though, there are others who are diabolically planning massacres will try harder to prevent any detection, so they can actually execute these heinous massacres of innocent people?

You can’t prevent with legislation that’s going to have a chance in reducing these tragedies, mass murderers do not fear consequences, quite a few of them in the past were willing to die for what ever evil cause they are thinking they have to avenge, or as in this case hating almost everybody that goes beyond just being a White Supremacist, as there was more than anti-semitism, Islamophobia, anti-gay and left leaning political hatred in his desire to do try and plan an atrocity to the extent such as what he was planning.

I get a lot of crap for NOT totally blaming guns in situations like this from people who do lean more to the left.

I get the occasional death threat or comment that I should kill myself  from people who lean more to the right, for making the comment that I don’t know why the NRA can’t denounce these kind of horrific crimes.

I have no problem with them defending their members who use guns responsibly and rationally.

I have people who I adore who are members of the NRA and they are good people.

How hard is it though to take a stance that they don’t want mass murderers as their members (even if they aren’t members of the NRA, they don’t care about responsible gun ownership like many members of the NRA do)  not condemning potentially endorses dangerous and deadly behaviors (I’m not saying the NRA is responsible for those murders) for those who are so misguided in thinking that they are right to something so heinous, that they may be under the misguided belief that the NRA thinks it’s ok, if not commendable.

But it needs to be said, guns in these tragedies are weapon of choice, unfortunately there are enough massacres that have occurred in people who did obtain guns legally or had no legal or mental history that would be cause for alarm to suspect some of these murderers of  wanting to commit these massacres.

As well as deadly massacres that weren’t executed with guns.

IF we can’t come together in our society to try to find solutions to try and prevent these tragedies happening over and over again, we will go from active shooter situations, to active bombers and mass murderers planning to kill as many people as possibly with something other than a gun, in the future.

I only hope I’m so wrong about this.

But there are too many mass murders that have occurred in the last 10 years alone that show hate and rage  is NOT only increasing, intensifying and more divisive than ever, it’s becoming way more deadly.

We have to do something on a major scale in hopes for prevention and reduction of these horrific tragedies and we have to do it, NOW.

Note: I’m amenable to constructive criticism. Save the hate, though. I think the best way to look at what I’m trying to get across, is coming up with national and global initiatives on prevention of massacres, will hopefully save lives and the lives it could save, could be yours or someone you love.

With bated breath …

Disclaimers: I am NOT  a clinically trained professional in medical or mental health or possess any kind of education or training in any form of law enforcement.

IF someone you know is capable of hurting themselves and/or others, please contact emergency services in your location, immediately.

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I really wanted to title this blog “Hate Won”…

Because I’m really beginning to think that hate is winning out.

I’m also really beginning to think, that no matter what I or others say about learning how to agree to disagree, choosing apathy over hate and that NO matter what morally or ethically (there’s a difference with legal) transgressions that people do to another, we don’t have the right to pay back those transgressions with violent irreversible harm over another for those who have a predilection for crime or for those who snap (which quite a few domestic murder/suicides this year alone were committed by people with no legal history or history of mental illness) .

I thought about the very recent crimes that happened in the United States that triggered my writing this blog and realized it didn’t matter whether or not  I specified the crimes, well the crimes of course did matter, but the actual date’s crimes didn’t, for activism purposes, as this happens EVERYDAY, now.

I’m obviously NOT a psychiatrist who specializes in violent crime pathology.

You don’t need to be though, to have an opinion or if one has a desire  to try and help make the world a better place, to have an opinion.

Some of my blogs are meant to be “DBT on Demand” for those who refuse to seek treatment and try to bring awareness that their words and/or actions can be harmful, if not fatal to themselves and/or  others.

Some of the best advice I’ve ever been given has been by someone NOT familiar with my exact personal circumstances and was practically, if not, a total stranger.

Some of the best life saving advice that I’ve ever given (with above disclaimer that people in any kind of crisis need to be evaluated and treated by appropriate professionals, in appropriate facilities) is to people who I don’t know personally, but have found me because of this blog.

It just goes beyond my scope of comprehension, of how people can let unchecked rage due to rejection, that leads to deadly revenge or attempt to kill another.

For someone who’s been hated on by people, the majority of my entire life  because of weight and looks (being more on the unattractive side of the spectrum) most of my life, I’ve only turned rage inward and what I learned when I became a mother, untreated hatred even if it’s just limited to oneself, can have devastating emotional consequences on those who you love the most, no matter how unintentional.

I had to learn at a young age how to deal with rejection and while it wasn’t hurtful to others, it wasn’t constructive, either and it’s something some of us, especially for those of us who’ve really never fit in, have to check in with themselves and take personal inventory on how we react to that, so it does NOT  turn inward or externally to others, and sometimes people can do that on their own, others may need professional help.

It NEVER helps whether in the short or long run,  to retaliate either emotionally or physically against someone who you hate either because you loved them at one time and they emotionally hurt you or in a lot of cases now, where people want to retaliate against strangers who they have differences of opinions.

I’m trying to multiple things here, but one thing I should try to make clear, for a blog that’s intended to reduce violent crime, I’m going way out of my way to talk about LEGALITIES, because they cease to matter to an individual once they try to perpetuate violent crime.

I REALLY don’t want to write these kind of blogs, anymore.

But I still do, because I cannot bear to know that someone can try to go to work, to school, a place of worship or grocery shopping and never come back because they were murdered for one or many of multiple reasons that most people with a shred of ration and sanity could never commit, due to another’s hatred of something or someone.

I want to put it out there, in a way I’m capable and comfortable with, that exacting violent or really any kind of revenge, isn’t badass or noble, it’s quite COWARDLY and it’s the worst possible legacy one will leave and I really can’t understand why anyone would want to do that although I’m trying, in hopes for prevention of violent crime.

That it’s despicable shame that the energy used to hurt others can’t (although I’m TRYING) to encourage re-channeling of that negative to do something positively good for another/others.

Or at least to prevent harm to innocent people.

And again not everyone is going to love each other, but if you can’t find empathy, try apathy.

People cannot become desensitized to all this violence due to fear, even though it’s understandable because it’s too painful to think about this happening to your own loved ones.

So my challenge to you, my dear readers, as well as the rest of the universe is, everytime you have negative thought about any person in regards to race, religion, politics, gender identification/sexual preference and weight (whether it be people on the thinner or larger side of the spectrum) , try to find something positive about that person to counteract the negative energy to neutralize it.

Here’s an example: “That #@^^____!!! I hate #$^____, they can all jump off a bridge, as far as I’m concerned!!!”

Try this when having a thought like that to yourself (and maybe if and/or if you’ll ever be ready to something like that in public forum/fashion) “Hey that person is a human being, maybe I need to remind myself that before I pass judgment on ____ and _____ and____ as they aren’t hurting anyone or themselves, it’s truthfully, really none of my business”.

We aren’t born to hate.

Unfortunately though, we are conditioned to.

Unless one intentionally chooses to break that cycle of being a hater and the good news is you can.

Because something so small, could do so much for innocent others who are losing their lives daily, because people can’t contain rage from rejection and it leads to revenge.

There’s a good reason, I didn’t write a 3 word blog with a 3 word title called “Let It Go”.

Because people do many bad things based upon the “why”.

The where, what, how and who obviously matters, enormously as well.

So maybe if we try to break the cycle on hating, by teaching from the time people are young how not to  be hateful and how to agree to disagree with a no bullying/hate tolerance stance and reinforcing that lifelong, we may have a chance on reducing violent crime.

But until then, I wait with bated breath, for the next tragic news story, that’s bound to happen in this hate cycle our society is in.

Note: Anything that’s not constructive, will NOT be published.