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How many MORE people are going to have to DIE , before we can talk about Opioid addiction and other addictions without STIGMA???

(Extremely important disclaimer: I’m NOT  a clinically trained professional. If you or someone you know is in acute medical or mental health crisis, PLEASE seek immediate/acute professional help, in an acute care facility.

Because this blog is about the fact that clinicians are only human and can be in crisis, too, this is WHY I’m pressing for honest dialogue in our society about the Opiate Epidemic and removing the stigma that exists that presents a barrier for so many people being able to get the help they need that hopefully, save their lives)

http://www.cnn.com/2017/5/24/us/drug-counselors-overdose/index.html

Most of my blogs, as of late, have had to do with the opioid epidemic. Some of the blogs, have been out of concern of the war on drugs, having a potential to harm those who use prescription opiates, responsibly, but as a last resort to treating severe chronic pain.

Some of them have included though, the very real crisis that we are in because of opioids both prescription and illegal opiates.

My very last blog (which was extremely wordy, even for me) , had to do with my getting labeled at a an appointment with a pain management specialist, who had labeled me, due to my mental health issues and that I had very temporarily abused opiates, both almost 9 years ago (for 5 days leading up to an intentional overdose with pain meds that had been prescribed for me) and almost 7 years ago for 2 days both situations involved both being in medical AND mental health crisis.

And I’ve discussed those issues ad nauseum, in previous blogs, quite a bit, since I’ve launched this blog, almost 4 years ago.

I also had mentioned in my last blog, that I had done an internet search on that physician, prior to that appointment almost 2 weeks ago and had found that pain management specialist I had seen, in addition to being “pro Butrans”, which I didn’t think was appropriate for me, neither did she, also had nearly had her own medical license suspended due to opioid addiction, less than 2 years ago. And had multiple conditions to be able to continue having her suspsension stayed, by not being able to prescribe controlled substances, let alone be in possession of them.

It was never my intent in my last blog to shame that provider. What I did find offensive, is my history being a barrier in my getting medical care, with bias, because I had been labeled PRIOR to ever being on opiates and as someone who has a very short history that I’m not usually believed by most providers, with temporary drug abuse, just because I have mental health issues and even BEFORE my mental health issues were diagnosed in my late 30’s, just because I was a bariatric surgical patient.

The above link on my blog, that I just came across tonight, was about 2 drug counselors in a addiction facility who overdosed on heroin/fentanyl combination in Pennsylvania on Monday.

I have never not known or acknowledged that the Opioid Epidemic, not only is a VERY real crisis, not just nationally but globally, but that clinically trained medical and mental health professionals, whether they are physicians, drug counselors or any kind of practicing clinician, also can be patients with the propensity to have serious addiction problems that can be fatal, just like to any other human being.

Also, I’ve said as a mental health activist who’s also written multiple blogs about murder/suicide, what I talk about is, NOT the means of how people choose to kill themselves and MURDER others , but the desire to kill to begin with.

It’s not to minimize when I bring up gun control initiatives when talking about that. I say, with being crystal clear, that I’m not a medically or mental health clinically trained professional and/or in public safety or law enforcement professional, that taking away the weapon of choice, isn’t getting to the heart of the matter, when it comes to these tragic deaths.

That if people want to kill, if they can’t get a gun, there are many other ways that they can and WILL find to kill people.

The same applies to drugs, when it comes to addiction. If people even start out honestly because of severe chronic pain or any kind of severe pain, such as surgical or due to an accident  and whether or not,  it becomes their gateway to drug addiction and/or they just go straight to illegal drugs for emotional and or mental health health pain and find a dealer, unfortunately, it’s not always predictable who will find themselves in crisis of life ruining, if not life ending consequences due to that addiction.

Or ANY type of addiction and that’s one of the  the points of this blog. If we can’t talk about the multiple ways and multi-faceted reasons that play into addiction, honestly without stigma, whether it be drugs, alcohol, tobacco, food, social media/internet/phone that present potential for abuse, addiction, the risk to public safety/personal health threats on humans and the fatalities that are occuring , we don’t have a prayer of reducing them.

It’s becoming obvious and it doesn’t take a clinically trained professional to state, that you can’t legistlate away addiction, it can make it only slightly harder to get drug of choice, it doesn’t take away the propensity for addiction, away.

Unfortunately, while it’s a lot easier to identify what barriers we are experiencing as a society when it comes to these threats, it’s a lot harder to find out what it’s going to take to make inroads in reducing addiction and both accidental and intentional overdoses.

But we  can’t just continue to believe it’s the epidemic itself, that’s killing so many people and/or ruining their lives.

Because the truth is, the STIGMA  and reluctance to have an open and honest dialogue is equally to blame.

This can’t continue to be a “don’t do drugs” or “ban all drugs” conversation, as prevention initiatives just aren’t working for so many. I’m in no way discounting them. They have value, it’s just not enough.

It has to become, why we are a globally, humans who can be prone to addictions of different natures that can be life ruining and life ending for almost anyone and everyone, which almost all of us, know someone who’s life has been ended too soon or ruined due to addiction, as well as loved ones who are effected by these crisies.

How many people are going to have to die, until the dialogues start and more initiatives are in place for study of, evaluation and better treatment options of disease of addiction themselves that don’t have the potential to lead to other addictions or other potential serious medical/mental health issues????

Note: I’m hoping this starts an honest dialogue to help. I always appreciate differing opinions if shared respectfully and responsibly.

Any comments that could be potentially triggering or are not constructive, will NOT published.

(Edit Note: Unfortunately, slight edits that were made before publishing didn’t take when blog was posted. It didn’t effect greatly my intention with this blog, just clarifying that I apologize that, it wasn’t as clear as intended it to be, from the start but also with the fact for new readers, I am a disabled blogger who writes about disabilities, in addition to topics like this one, that I feel passionately about)

You need to get off of Facebook…

“Let’s start by, making it clear, who’s the enemy here and we’ll show them, that it’s NOT them, who’s superior /It’s gonna be bad, it’s gonna be wrong, it’s gonna  feel GOOD……”

Thievery Corporation “Marching the Hate Machines Into The Sun”

I, remember when I first saw the above video, it had to be about 5 years ago, and ironically it had been shared on Facebook, before the era of timeline when people were still sharing things on their wall, if you remember, life on Facebook before timelines.

And while I knew the video had some relevance to me and many others, it was the first time I heard the song played in video and let myself dwell on that, because I wasn’t ready to think I had a MAJOR problem with social media, when I already knew that I did.

SO…. I just concentrated on the music making me feel my manic depressive episodes had a theme song. And nothing else, even though I watch the video, often, in the last 5 years.

That what I just shared  above, will be relevant, it’s just gonna take me like always, a little bit of time and whole bunch of words to make my point.

Now, it also bears mentioning that when I refer to social media, for me, I’m talking about Facebook, as while I’m on Twitter, to link/”promote” my blog,  that I know there’s all kinds of social media, like Imgur, Reddit, etc.

That’s just too much choice in social media,  for my already  foggy, “Bermuda Triangle for a brain” head, though I just kind of have tendency to stick with Facebook, even though I struggle with that, and I DEFINITELY have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/04/08/new-study-links-facebook-to-depression-but-now-we-actually-understand-why/

I had stumbled on this little gem on Monday of an article, had thought about making it a discussion question on my Facebook timeline, because the takeaway from it, is that most people feel bad about Facebook because it makes them feel inferior and/or that they are jealous.

(I, probably should add, an important nugget of info. I AM an internet addict, I’ve been one since I got a computer almost 20 years ago, and I discovered AOL. Just try to be patient, as I’m gonna EVENTUALLY make a major point. It should also be mentioned after freaking out about all the HATE on Facebook, which I nicknamed “Hatebook”, I  wrote a major rant about all the hate between people online,  as a status update, on Monday night and went offline on Monday night and will not be online much as I really need a break from social media, the news and what the media and Facebook THINKS is newsworthy or relevant, as well as the animosity regarding politics of all kinds, here in the U.S. and on social media, is just more negativity than I can take or deal with)

The biggest problem I have with social media, or as in my case with Facebook, at least as it applies to myself , is not the feeling of jealousy or envy, because in my case, if I’d be jealous over anyone who had an advantage of me, there’s about 99.5% of adults who can drive a car, raise their kids and keep a job and that’s just WAY too many people for me to be JEALOUS of.

So, I didn’t ask any discussion questions on Monday about the article, because I knew it would be hard for others to to answer honestly as well as the whole Facebook turning into Hatebook debacle . And I get why it would be hard to answer questions that people don’t want to ask themselves that the article brings up on the above link, let alone comment on it publicly. That’s if Facebook would even show it in people’s newsfeeds and didn’t think it would, considering the content.

One of the  biggest problems that I have in the era of social media, is the feeling of being manipulated, knowing that I am, and still letting it get to me.

And while Facebook does a great job of manipulating people, they aren’t totally at fault. There wouldn’t be a supply, if there wasn’t a demand.

And manipulating people has been around for a really long time, to sell products, services and ideas, whether it’s  professional or personal manipulation.

Facebook is just one of the BEST at it and the most successful at manipulating others.  While I consider myself a “Google” girl, and I know they do that too, Facebook is way more in your face about it.

If you’ll pardon the horrible pun…..

The problems that people have because of social media or looking for a cure with social media, and human beings when almost everything we need to know  has a digital and/or advanced electronical delivery system is multifaceted and complex. I can hit what I think are biggest issues, and we can go from there.

We’ve sadly though,  become a society of not so closeted social media voyeurs and exhibitionists. People pick and choose about who they care about and who’s just an audience to them, so callously now a days.

There’s already a social media aspect to psychiatry and there’s already a great need for more research in place, of how damaging our dependence on technology, actually is  to ourselves and how we relate to other human beings. Both online and offline.  And how we can evaluate and treat people who have this as a major issue/addiction/obsession in their lives.

I understand I didn’t discover that, the problem is, what to do, when internet and social media addiction isn’t talked about very much.

And it definitely needs to be talked about more, in great detail.

I knew within 2 days of getting a computer, in November of 1996, that I was going to have a major problem with internet addiction, it’s something I rarely talk about, though.

And unlike most junkies, I can handle a non social media aspect of using the internet. Meaning I could take internet breaks (for a couple of days) and I did, from almost the start, of not touching a computer, except at work on Fridays. I still take social media internet sabbaticals, all the time.

I managed not to touch a computer or go anywhere near the internet for an ENTIRE year, after my suicide attempt in August of 2008. While I didn’t have any choice for a little over a month, I did have 11 months where I did have the choice and chose not to. I was too out of it, I knew I was too broken and too vulnerable to be ANYWHERE NEAR A COMPUTER (I didn’t know either, at the time, as I was still too  overly medicated, that people could go online on other devices, let alone knew what Facebook even was, when I came back online in late August of 2009 and joined but was rarely online until early 2010, when I was out of the mh system and not overly medicated, any longer).

The problem is that social media, while has been a major blessing, it’s also had a major negative impact on my life.  Some of that is my fault and or due to my barriers and I own that. But a lot of the issues people have with social media and while their issues vary, the consequences can have a horribly negative impact on our lives.

You’re probably wondering when I’m going to make my point and then when I hit a nerve (if I haven’t already) , either wanna let me have it, so you’ll discount my crappy writing style, my mental health and/or cognitive disabilities, or many of my other faults,  as what I’m saying could NEVER happen to you.

The problem is, if you really do some soul searching, you’ll find that it ALREADY  is a major problem, for a lot of us. Social media addiction and/or (not just for those of us, who already have mental health diagnoses) socially media induced mood and personality problems already DO  exist and are in abundance.

Unfortunately, while I can tell you what the problems could be, I can’t tell you what the CURE is. At least the cure for YOU. I’m not saying NOT go on social media websites, and chances are, that most people who have this as addiction and/or major issue in their lives, don’t have the luxury of NOT being on the internet.

Or more bizarrely, that sadly,  what will possibly and/or most likely  help you will come from the internet, if you finally realize that you have a problem.

I went to use Google for articles on social media addiction, after I started this blog, tonight. Some were articles, some were blogs. While there are some good links and good advice, and I’ll post them, the problem is that, I can’t do that without risking manipulating my readers that way, while I don’t make money from this blog, WordPress does and so does any link that I put on here. But some of the advice dispensed in the links below, could be helpful.

I have to trust that if you realize that you have an internet and/or social media addiction, that you’ll seek “in real life”  professional guidance from a clinically trained professional.

Not real help from a complex disabled blogger. Not from Dr. Drew or Dr. Phil or any of the internet psychological superstars. A real life and offline clinically credentialed professional. Who evaluates and treats you, in person.

I can only  hope that this will start a badly needed dialogue about social media and internet addiction. It’s just kinda messed up , as while I wouldn’t hold an AA meeting in a bar, I wouldn’t hold an OA meeting at a buffet or GA meeting in a casino, that to get a dialogue going, it needs to be done ONLINE.

For those of you who don’t think you have a problem with internet and/or social media addiction, let me ask you the following:

Do you believe you can be you true self, both as you look and who you are on the inside, both online and offline?

Do you dream and/or fantasize  in “social media” and/or Facebook and/or are preoccupied with any certain people on social media, both when asleep and/or awake?

Are you preoccupied with what you are missing online, and/or do others such as family and/or friends, comment on how much you are on social media and/or not paying attention to them when offline because the truth is, you are wondering what and who you are missing online ?

Do you need it explained to you that there’s not much difference between a “half truth” and a whole lie?  Do you ever feel like you’re not your truest self on or offline or worse, you can’t be your authentic self? That NOBODY would like you, if you were your true self?

None of the above questions apply to you? Great, didn’t think so (now I’m choking on my own sarcasm, but I’m honestly trying to help). It’s okay, I  can be the only person out of a BILLION who might have an issue with internet/social media addiction.

Alright, with the sarcasm out of the way, hopefully this will lead to an honest discussion that’s terribly needed.Even though I can’t in good conscience, promote it anywhere.

But if you build it, they will come, RIGHT? Or more  like if you write it they will read it?…

Helpful and honest insight and/or critique is welcomed. As well as discussion for those who realize they have internet/social media addiction and/or depression/obsession  or other problems from social media and/or being online too much.

Anything  comments that could triggering to a reader will NOT be published. Thanks….

Links:

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/featured/managing-your-social-network-addiction.html

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/7-reasons-why-quitting-facebook-now-good-for-your-future.html

http://www.lifehack.org/233325/5-psychological-reasons-you-are-addicted-facebook-and-5-ways-break-the-habit

http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/technology/social-media-addiction

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