From a grateful gastric bypass patient who’s happier and healthier and has been maintaining a 250 lb weight loss for 4 years and is a size 8. Never going back, thanks for being an incentive!!! ”
I, publically respond at the source. On social media. I figured I’d use my blog, this time as I’ve been working on for like FOREVER a way of trying to explain why I’m both in the weight loss surgery community and as a size acceptance/fat acceptance advocate. And can’t quite articulate the way I want to, so I figure this blog and today’s hate email would be a good way to basically state that no one is better or worse for being thin or for being fat.Someone who’s assholery has no bounds is going though to get an uber bitchy snarky response back, though….And cuz’ I’m not a cowardly anonymous hater, if I believe in something I’m willing to attach my identity to it. So here’s my response back..On WP and Facebook….********************************************************
Dear Size 8, 250 lb lighter, HATER, I don’t know why you felt the need to send me such a hateful email. I try to help others both in the weight loss surgery community as a resource and long term peer and in the size acceptance/fat acceptance community as I think that we live in a society where it’s repugnant that fat hatred, bigotry and oppression exists. I still defend my right, your right or anyone else’s right to do what they want with their bodies.
Up to including losing weight, by any means they see fit, up to and including weight loss surgery. I am only happy for my fellow weight loss surgery peers who are happier and healthier for having weight loss surgery and feel better for keeping excess weight off. For any reason. I do believe everyone though has a right to tell their story, in the weight loss surgery community.I also hope though that people of all sizes can live their lives and not be targeted for such reasons as weight. I hope by doing the advocacy I do, that people don’t hate themselves or feel like they are failures because we live in a society that says you have to be a certain weight or look a certain way to be acceptable. My losses were huge in of abilities, other then the fact I didn’t lose my life with my gastric bypass complications…Once I became disabled to the degree I was, being fat wasn’t the worst thing ever to happen to me. But I was never superficial enough to think that after my weight loss surgery I was better then anyone or that anyone else was bad for being fat. I just had my own baggage from the time I was young from being bullied as a young child till I had my gastric bypass…
I however will be DAMNED, if I have to put up with shit from someone who’s “journey” has been a 1/3 of mine. Actually it’s irrelevant how far post op you are. But…As long as your making notes and judgements about my “journey”, let me suggest some things about your own……….
Your need to lose 250 lbs to be a size 8, people who hate fat people would say that “How the FUCK did you get that FAT in the first place??? You know how shitty it is to feel that way. Why would you do that to someone else? And if you believe in what you say, why do you do it anonymously?
I didn’t have complications post weight loss surgery to either get attention or piss anyone off. It really doesn’t matter of why I had the regain I did, because it doesn’t make me any less better or worse for any reason for weight regain and/or complications post gastric bypass in the weight loss surgery community for those of us who’ve had regain. Just like people are naturally thin are not any better then people who’ve had weight loss surgery to lose weight. And just like people who are fat aren’t any better OR worse then anyone who’s thin, whether they elect to do something about their weight or NOT.
I wouldn’t wish my complications on anyone. Including people who hate on me, like you. But I will leave you with this. If I lost 250 lbs at my very heaviest either before or after gastric bypass, I’d weigh a -17 lbs. I also kept off my excess weight for 6 years. So feel free to check in with me, then. Or how in 8 years from now which will put you to almost 12 years post gastric bypass, like I am? Which honestly my weight fluctuates and I’m at the point where I’m about ONLY 8 sizes smaller now, then my heaviest, which I’ve kept off a little under have my excess weight. Which was a 100 lbs, if you really need to know, the week of my gastric bypass. While I’m not the smallest person in size and fat acceptance nor is that an issue. Because there are a lot of people who believe that no one should be hated for their size, kinda like that should be a human right….
But here’s your “congratulations” on being SMALL on so MANY levels…I’d venture to guess it’s been a lot longer then 4 years!!!! See you at 12 years post op …..
Until then though, I can only leave you with this. Don’t judge others. If you don’t like someone on social media, instead of hating on them, try apathy.
Oh and by the way.. UM, FUCK YOU!!!